We talked about the Relationship Attachment Model (R.A.M) on Thursday. It states that you must know someone more than you trust them, you must trust them more than you rely on them, you must rely on someone more than you commit to them, and you must committed to them more then you touch them. I definitely agree with this model and I can see how when this is out of whack, a relationship can be very messed up. My teacher compared the situation when touch is the highest to when a car has the base up way loud. From this inside of the car (or the inside of the relationship) things sound (seem) great! But from the outside, it sounds (looks) terrible. We talked about how to avoid a false perception or the relationship while you are in one. It is important to constantly be evaluating the relationship. Don't be afraid to "step out of" the relationship to see what it looks like from an outside perspective. It really helps.
One insight I gained in class was about what a date consists of and how it relates to the roles of individuals in families. We have heard that a date is planned, paid for, and paired off. This links up perfectly with The Family: A Proclamation to the World when it says that a husbands role in the family is to preside (plan), provide (paid for), and protect (paired off). It is great that dating is preparatory to marriage in so many ways!
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